MysticMag chats with Dale Turnbull, The Problem Coach at Extreme Reaction Coaching. With a track record of assisting hundreds in reclaiming control over their extreme reactions, Dale is dedicated to providing a fast and guaranteed shift towards calm and controlled responses.
As an NLP Master Practitioner, Hypnosis Practitioner, IEMT Practitioner and Metaphors of Movement Practitioner, Dale offers a human approach to eliminating explosive anger, phobias and anxiety. Book a free consultation now to identify triggers, rewire your responsiveness, and thrive. Experience the quickest coaching solution to free yourself from these unwanted reaction, with a money-back guarantee.
Dale, can you share more about your background and experience as an NLP Master Practitioner, Hypnosis Practitioner, IEMT Practitioner and Metaphors of Movement Practitioner, and how these modalities contribute to your coaching approach in helping people manage extreme reactions?
In 2018, I delved into the world of NLP, or neuro-linguistic programming, transitioning from a corporate background with the goal of refining my communication to deeply impact people. Through this journey, I discovered the power of altering our own thoughts and feelings, because I believe it is important for us to have more choices in life. NLP, as I define it, revolves around understanding how we structure our thinking, and dissecting the building blocks that give it coherence. For instance, I encountered a woman with a debilitating fear of dogs, and she didn’t realize she was visualizing a dog with menacing teeth 2 inches from her face, which to be fair would be pretty scary for most people. To disrupt such mental processes, I employ techniques like hypnosis and NLP state changes, with my primary focus being in Metaphors of Movement, a cornerstone of my training and coaching. This approach involves providing clients with a clear picture of their reality, liberating them from self-imposed narratives that often confine them. Ultimately, my aim is to guide individuals from their current state to their desired destination, recognizing the importance of flexibility in tailoring solutions to each unique individual.
The concept of “Identifying Triggers” suggests a proactive approach to managing extreme reactions. How do you guide individuals in recognizing and understanding their triggers, and what strategies do you employ to help them gain control over these triggers?
When people discuss being triggered, it often relates to a reaction prompted by something either happening internally or externally to us. In my perspective, merely recognizing these triggers is only the first step. For example, knowing that “not getting my way makes me angry” or “being asked about a presentation makes me anxious” is valuable, but what’s even more impactful is redirecting these reactions. It’s akin to having a GPS for your emotions. Imagine every day driving to work and ending up in a frustrating traffic jam. What if, just before reaching that traffic jam, your GPS alerted you, giving you the option to take a scenic side road, avoiding this reaction whilst allowing you to reach your destination? I work with people to pinpoint their triggers so they can effortlessly shift their focus to a more resourceful mindset, creating a smoother path forward.
Your coaching promises a “Guaranteed Shift” and “Fast Result.” Could you provide an example or success story where an individual experienced significant improvement in managing their extreme reactions after working with you?
My primary focus revolves around addressing anger, anxiety, and phobias. In many cases these kinds of reactions can trigger our fight or flight responses, activating the sympathetic nervous system. I provide individuals with practical tools to automatically transition into the parasympathetic state, promoting relaxation without conscious effort. Through sessions on Zoom, I engage with both men and women facing relationship challenges, conducting live exercises to facilitate transformative shifts. Typically, it takes about 2 to 3 sessions for individuals to witness noticeable results. However, I emphasize the importance of ongoing evaluation; if there are no incidents a week later, it’s not just luck but a testament to the effectiveness of the tools provided. I apply a similar process to various phobias, such as fear of dogs, heights, and flying, recognizing the common initiation of a similar physiological response. The key is guiding individuals to think differently and reshape their reactions in real-world scenarios. For example, I had a man who found himself getting angry when coming home from work because of the stress of work combined with his children’s demands. It was getting too much for him, and he used to blow up. I worked with him and after just 1 session, he was able to show up at home in a different way, calmer and able to more easily connect with his children. As another example, a woman came to me with a fear of flying. She was going on her honeymoon the day after her wedding, but she was dredding the whole experience leading up to it because of the flight. After 2 sessions, she no longer worried about being in the plane and was actually getting excited for her honeymoon. She was releived!
The focus on overcoming anxiety, including specific situations like driving, public speaking, and work-related scenarios, is a significant aspect of your coaching. How do you tailor your approach to address these specific anxieties, and what techniques do you find most effective in providing relief?
It’s crucial to recognize the individuality of each person and tailor the approach accordingly. When dealing with anxiety, it’s essential to understand that it often revolves around future concerns. By dissecting the components that contribute to the problem, I help individuals address the multitude of thoughts circulating in their minds. Take, for instance, a case of a man with driving anxiety who envisioned crashes when approaching the motorway. By restructuring his experience and providing tools for a more relaxed mindset, we facilitated a positive shift. The key is to take each individual as they come and work with the person’s unique experience. In another scenario, an individual struggled with an anxiety of public speaking, linked to being unprepared for work meetings. Recognizing the root cause, we worked on implementing systems to improve preparation and organization, alleviating the anxiety that stemmed from a valid concern. It’s not only about change, but also understanding if the current situation serves a greater purpose for the individual. Adapting strategies to suit individual’s needs and motivations is central to the success of the process.
The emphasis on a “Human Approach” is intriguing. Can you elaborate on what this means in the context of extreme reaction coaching, and how your coaching philosophy incorporates a personalized and empathetic touch to help individuals thrive in overcoming fear, phobias and anxiety, and controlling their reactions?
I believe in providing individuals with the positive change they seek, and contrary to the often weighty and stigmatized image associated with coaching, therapy, and counseling, I bring a refreshing perspective. My approach incorporates provocative changework, which is both fun and communicative. I challenge the notion that coaching needs to be arduous, painful, or overly challenging for the client. Instead, I strive for a down-to-earth, friendly, and communicative style. It’s not about overwhelming positivity or constant pressure for results; rather, it’s about having a conversation, addressing issues that many people face, and working through them in a supportive and approachable manner.
If you would like to find out more about Dale Turnbull, please visit https://extremereactioncoaching.com/