While it may be difficult to believe, soulmates are indeed real. The truth is, everyone has one. There’s a lot of misinformation surrounding soulmates, though, most of which has been perpetuated by unrealistic Disney and Hallmark movies. So let’s set some things straight about soulmates.
What is a Soulmate?
A soulmate is someone you have a deep, soul-level connection with. It’s a soul contract you made prior to this lifetime.
While a soulmate is not always immediately recognizable, they are someone who instantly feels familiar to you. They are people who bring out the best version of you, love you unconditionally, and understand your thoughts and feelings in a unique, effortless way.
While you may have someone in mind who fits this description in your life, keep in mind that soulmate connections are not the only kind of relationships you can find yourself in. There are also karmic connections and twin flames. These relationships can feel uncannily similar to that of a soulmate, but they are definitely not the same.
Karmic Relationships Explained
Karmic relationships are tricky. Before you realize it, you might find yourself in the middle of one, and no desire to end it. It’s incredibly important that you’re able to identify a karmic relationship when you’re in one and to not trick yourself into believing that this person is your soulmate.
The easiest way to understand a karmic relationship is to think of Romeo and Juliet. Karmic relationships are ones where a connection is instantly formed, are full of intense passion, and are completely unsustainable. Sure, everything is exciting and thrilling in the beginning, but it doesn’t take long for the relationship to deteriorate into a painful mess of adrenaline, thrill-seeking, and hurt feelings.
While you should get yourself out of a karmic relationship once things turn sour, they’re not all bad. In my own experience with a karmic relationship, I was certain at the time that my partner was the person I wanted to be with forever. But in hindsight, I realize the purpose of that relationship was for me to learn important (albeit painful) lessons about myself and what a successful partnership takes. My best advice to you is to view these relationships as learning experiences. Who knows— a karmic relationship might shift your life path into the direction it needs to take to meet your soulmate.
Twin Flames Explained
Your twin flame, or mirror soul, is a person whose soul is the other half of yours. Some believe a person’s soul can actually be split in two, living out its life in two separate bodies. If these two people meet, they have a twin flame connection.
Not everyone has a twin flame and twin souls are not necessarily “soulmates”. While a person’s twin flame might end up being that person’s soulmate, this isn’t the case for everyone. Twin flames have a lot of things in common, from interests and hobbies, to thoughts and feelings. And for some people, too much similarity without enough contrast can lead to a problematic relationship.
The important thing about twin flame relationships is that they are similar to karmic relationships in the sense that they can teach us a great deal about ourselves and how we function in relationships. If you do have a twin flame and you meet them, it will be up to you to determine if this person is your soulmate or not.
Soulmates: Reality vs Myth
People tend to believe that there is only one soulmate out there for everyone. The truth is, you can have more than one soulmate. Now, I’m not saying you have 100 soulmates out there, but you also don’t only have just one. But how can this be?
Let’s take the grandiose myth of having “one true love” and ground that in reality. First of all, as of the time this post was published, the global population was 7.8 billion. You might be thinking, sure, but a big portion of those people are children or people whose sexuality doesn’t align with mine.
Sure, that’s true. Let’s say half of those people are not in the right age range to be your soulmate (which is a vast overestimation), and another sizable chunk doesn’t align with your sexuality. Conservatively, that leaves you with at least 1 billion people in the world. So for the people who say, “there’s no one out there for me”, the math says otherwise. In fact, it’s more likely than not that you have multiple soulmates.
You might be thinking, “sure, but what if my soulmate doesn’t live in the same place as me right now?” Well, the good news is that we don’t live in the dark ages. Technology that allows us to communicate and travel means that essentially no part of the globe remains unreachable to us.
Now, this doesn’t mean that you’re going to meet every single one of your soulmates in your lifetime. And it’s true, some people may never meet even a single one of their soulmates. But that doesn’t have to be the case for you.
How Do I Find My Soulmate?
As much as this may frustrate you, the way you find your soulmate is by simply living your life. Doing so increases the likelihood that your soulmate will fall right out of the sky and into your world when you least expect it. What you have to do is open yourself up to life and living.
While you’re not going to find your soulmate through a Google search, there are some things you can do to increase your chances of crossing paths.
- If you’re in a toxic, harmful, or stagnant relationship, you need to get out of it. The best way to make sure you never find your soulmate, or worse, you miss the chance to be with them, is by wasting your time in the wrong relationship.
- Don’t be afraid to make big life changes. Go on that trip, take that new job, pursue that degree, move to a new location. While you shouldn’t take irresponsible or careless risks, you should push yourself to see and experience new things. Anything that sparks inspiration puts you on the right path. In fact, this is one of the best ways to find your soulmate. You never know who you’ll meet, and where, until you show up.
- Consult with a psychic or spiritual advisor. Sometimes the best way to find an answer to something is to ask an expert. Talking with a professional, qualified psychic who is in touch with the spiritual world may lead you to discover that you’ve already met your soulmate. Or they can guide you on how you can increase your chances of finding them.
Soulmates are a tricky business. It’s not like your partner will have the words “I’m the one” written on their foreheads. But that doesn’t mean you can’t find and recognize yours. The key is to open yourself up to the possibilities, get out of any negative relationships, and live your life to the fullest. Who knows— you may even come across more than one during your lifetime.